Thursday, March 1, 2012
Monday, February 20, 2012
12:34 AMCity of SmilesPhilippines
I saw this post online and I want to share it to all of you.
My mom only had one eye. I hated her, she was such an embarrassment. My mom ran a small shop at a flea market.She collected little weeds and such to sell, anything for the money we needed she was such an embarrassment.There was this one day during elementary school. I remember that it was field day, and my mom came. I was so embarrassed. How could she do this to me? I threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school..."Your mom only has one eye?!" and they taunted me.
I wished that my mom would just disappear from this world so I said to my mom, "Mom, why don't you have the other eye?! You're only going to make me a laughingstock. Why don't you just die?" My mom did not respond. I guess I felt a little bad, but at the same time, it felt good to think that I had said what I'd wanted to say all this time.
Maybe it was because my mom hadn't punished me, but I didn't think that I had hurt her feelings very badly.
That night...I woke up, and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. My mom was crying there, so quietly, as if she was afraid that she might wake me. I took a look at her, and then turned away. Because of the thing I had said to her earlier, there was something pinching at me in the corner of my heart. Even so, I hated my mother who was crying out of her one eye. So I told myself that I would grow up and become successful, because I hated my one-eyed mom and our desperate poverty.
Then I studied really hard. I left my mother and came to Seoul and studied, and got accepted in the Seoul University with all the confidence I had. Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. Then I had kids, too. Now I'm living happily as a successful man. I like it here because it's a place that doesn't remind me of my mom.
This happiness was getting bigger and bigger, when someone unexpected came to see me "What?! Who's this?!"... It was my mother...Still with her one eye. It felt as if the whole sky was falling apart on me. My little girl ran away, scared of my mom's eye. And I asked her, "Who are you? I don't know you!!!" as if I tried to make that real. I screamed at her "How dare you come to my house and scare my daughter! Get out here now!" And to this, my mother quietly answered, "oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address," and she disappeared. Thank good ness... she doesn't recognize me. I was quite relieved. I told myself that I wasn't going to care, or think about this for the rest of my life.
Then a wave of relief came upon me... one day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. I lied to my wife saying that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went down to the old shack, that I used to call a house...just out of curiosity there, I found my mother fallen on the cold ground. But I did not shed a single tear. She had a piece of paper in her hand.... it was a letter to me.
I think my life has been long enough now. And... I won't visit Seoul anymore... but would it be too much to ask if I wanted you to come visit me once in a while? I miss you so much. And I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I decided not to go to the school.... For you... I'm sorry that I only have one eye, and I was an embarrassment for you.
You see, when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with only one eye... so I gave you mine... I was so proud of my son that was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye. I was never upset at you for anything you did. The couple times that you were angry with me. I thought to myself, 'it's because he loves me.' I miss the times when you were still young around me.
I miss you so much. I love you. You mean the world to me.
My world shattered! Then I cried for the person who lived for me. My Mother.
I hope this will serve as an eye-opener to us.Please love our moms :)
Monday, February 13, 2012
I wonder why people keep talking about Valentine’s Day. I was walking last week in the corridor, heading for my marketing exam and overheard a lot of students; most are girls who keep on talking about February 14. It seems that this day is so significant for a lot of people (excluding me). I kept on wondering why they try to discuss about it more than focusing their exams, to think that it’s midterms. Some keep on talking about their plans, how they will celebrate it. Valentine’s seems to be a cliché but how did it all started?
I was reading currently the book of Camilla Morton, A Year in High Heels. I kept on promising myself to finish reading the entire book but still because of too much tasks to be done when I had my internship in Singapore, I wasn’t able to do so. I bought that book in Popular, a bookstore wherein you can find cheap and books on sale. According to Camilla, Valentine’s originated from St. Valentine who was martyred in AD 269. Roman emperor Claudius was actively recruiting men to join the army but none of them wanted to go to war and prefer staying at home with their wives and family. Claudius banned wedding in his logic that since there will be no marriage, men will join and fight for him. But there was opposition, including Valentine, the priest who was secretly marrying couples. When Claudius found out, he condemned Valentine to be beaten to death. There was a legend that he left a note with signed, “From Your Valentine.” Pope Gelasius in AD 496 honoured Valentine and set February 14 for romance where the tradition of giving chocolates and flowers, where declarations been flying faster than Cupid’s arrow.
Today, celebrating Valentine’s Day is more distinct. There are presence of fireworks and concerts, parties and a lot more. Indeed it is much more commercialized. Well, it depends as well as to how people would celebrate it. It seems that there is really great attention given to February 14, major news headlines are on price increase of roses, flowers and all relevant stuffs. Valentine’s as well is good for economy, since businesses are flourishing, from restaurants, movie houses, malls and all.
So now, a few hours before twelve midnight, you’re holding your phone, expecting someone to send an sms asking you out for a dinner, blah blah blah. You keep reading books, watching romantic movies and eating a lot. Funny but it’s real. So how a single individual does should celebrate a valentine’s day? Well actually, there is no standard rule as to how but because I can relate to your feelings, I can suggest some options.
1. Reflect- First thing to do is Reflect. You don’t need a mirror, but it will help as well if you like. Try to ask yourself, why are you single until this very moment? Then try to realize that there are only to possible answers: it is because of YOUR personal choice or you are not the personal choice of the person you choose. Let’s face it, sometimes we are hindered by a lot of factors, our family, studies, peer pressure and ourselves. And because it was your personal choice to be single, grasp the fact that you will not have those fairytale stuffs, seriously. If that was your choice, stand by it, you may have a better reason why you opt to be single. Second, you are not the personal choice. I don’t want to be harsh but admit it, at times the person that we want the most will never be our lover. We have varied feelings and if the person doesn’t want you, it is indeed time for you to find someone. Don’t wait and just try to think that love will search for you, in some instances it may but not at all. If you wait for someone without making any effort, it’s like applying for a job without your resume. Try to weigh options, is it better to be single or are you open for a commitment.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Monday, January 16, 2012
At first I was afraid that I may not be able to accomplish my obligations: pick, style and change clothes for fifteen mannequins, do the daily visual merchandising and a lot more tasks. If there is one thing that I could be really proud of, that is, they trust a La Sallian Intern to be a part of their VM Team for their flagship store in Asia. My longevity and flexibility were challenged; I need to wake up by 5 AM because I need to report to by 7AM in the shop and finish my work after 8 PM. But I never complained, because for me, it’s a privilege to be trusted by my bosses, my mentors. My schedules for entire year, majority doing 7 AM shifts and there, I really learned how difficult working in the real world is, how valuable every single dime you earned is. My perspectives were changed when I was in SG. Being a senior student, I need to take care of our junior interns and to comfort them when they feel loneliness. Most probably, my gloomy childhood days helped me to become a more mature individual that’s why I became emotionally strong and really embraced what life has to offer. Language and cultural differences are major factors that we adjusted because we are dealing with different people, different nationalities and working with colleagues that are mostly locals. It’s a sense of fulfillment when you can serve the customer and he or she happily appreciates your service. Singapore, being one of the primary destinations for retail therapy, has uplifted its name in Customer Service categories.
Before, I was just day-dreaming of choosing and styling clothes, but my SG experience made it all happen. I was able to work with some Filipino and International Celebrities, styled and choose clothes for them. Doing model-stores in different outlets also during wee hours in the morning, doing VM presentations to the company director and all the managers and company heads. As well as the chance to do presentations for the UK directors, it is very fulfilling to represent my shop and definitely, my university as a La Sallian. If there is one thing that I want to share, that would be the paradigm “Dream BIG”, dream and attain your goals. Believe that you can, and do something to make it possible. From a simple student before, now I was able to be recognized because of my fashion and styles. It is undeniably a great and wonderful experience. In my life, I never think that I will be able to do all of these, to be awarded for my efforts. Thank you to all those who helped us: the administration and teachers, my family, our mentors in Singapore, our colleagues and my clients and customers. They aided a lot in my development and they continue to motivate and bring out the best in me.
To God be the Glory!
Friday, December 2, 2011
21 hours ago in my facebook account (http://www.facebook.com/smarkyposh), i posted this one great video. I was actually browsing for some other videos in Youtube but i was intrigued about the title of the vid so I tried to open it immediately.
In 4 minutes, tears fell from my eyes and apparently, i remembered my first Christmas here in Singapore without my family around me. It's definitely sad and you will really feel how lonely it is to be away from them. The feeling that you're working on Christmas day and you finished work around 10:30 in the evening, just like the usual Noche Buena in the Philippines.I remembered before, I was calling mom and would just greet her through phone and I can't help but always wish that hopefully, we will be together again next Christmas.
Actually, the ad that I am referring to is the new Ad from Coca-Cola. The title is, Where will Happiness Strike Next: The OFW Project. More than just being a beverage company, I was inspired by COKE because i seldom see some companies doing the same kinds of deeds for others especially for our OFWs. It's an admirable act, a true work for their corporate social responsibility. In the said video, three workers overseas were given the opportunity to see their loved ones in the Philippines, just in time for the yuletide season. It's really heart-warming, touching and very sentimental. I can really relate because I was alone and away from my mom as well for a year when I started my fashion internship here in SG. I know how difficult life is being far from them. I was touched by the story of a dad who was not able to take care of his son since he was one year old because the father need to go and work abroad.
I guess this an advocacy that we should support and we should be proud of. More than just a thirst-quencher and being our Star in Noche Buena, (Filipino Christmas won't be complete without Coke) it has paved the way to gather and unify all Filipinos worldwide. It might just be a simple ad but it means a lot and it has given us the true significance of Family and Christmas. I am happy that in my own simple way, I was one of the first to share the video to my friends in Facebook. I received a lot of positive responses and it's overwhelming.
Kudos COKE and continue to TOUCH more LIVES! LIVE POSITIVELY
Here's The Touching Video :